Do Not Smother Her
After you decide how to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to be sure that you don’t further alienate her in the process. Despite your knowing how important your relationship is, you must be willing to let her come to the same conclusions without your pushing her. Go ahead and tell her how you feel, by all means. Just don’t expect her to immediately jump on the bandwagon. The relationship was not destroyed in one day, and it won’t mend itself in one day either. If you push her towards reconciling when she’s not yet ready, she won’t give it her all. Somewhere in the back of her mind she will always wonder if she rushed the reconciliation without thinking it through enough. The reconciliation must be a joint effort, with both parties doing their best to make it work.